Hey from K: A note as I enter my 30th year (+ a special announcement)
Feels about time for a big adulting reflection
Sunday Scaries is a weekly newsletter from Katina M., the writer behind On Adulting + co-founder of Daydreamers. Think of it as a dose of conscious thinking for your days ahead; like a cozy sweater to wrap your thoughts in.
Hey friends,
How are you? Feeling the volatility and uncertainty of the world? Noticing tiny moments of good amidst it all?!
I know last we talked, I shared that I would be evolving away from On Adulting (š¤š„²šāØšø) as I move into new phases of life. This week I felt called to connect with you for the most *adulting* reason: yesterday, I stepped into my fourth decade on Earth (holy shit, turning 30 means youāve completed 30 yrs!!).
Honestly, Iāve never been more excited/grounded/curious/hopeful/confident as I head into a new year. Every major milestone birthday up until now has felt like a shitshow, if Iām being honest. It always felt like I was doing so much but accomplishing nothing. Like I needed to be further along.
The lead-up to this new decade has been an unwinding of all that rushing. In my š§ + š¤ I feel like Iām exactly where I need to be.
If you read the On Adulting book, youāll know that each year I write a letter to my past self as a nostalgic and imaginative ritual that allows me to feel grateful for the past, while dreaming about the future. Iām going to share a little peek into what I wrote yesterday (I think youāll resonate, no matter what age you are), but before I do that I want to give you a peek into something else Iāve been dreaming up - and really, the evolution of what OA has become.
As I look back over the past decade, I feel like my twenties were growing alongside all of you: figuring out what it meant to live a fulfilling, purposeful, joyful life that was led by conscious decisions > what I was āsupposedā to do. It was filled with making mistakes + weird twists and turns + intensity + experimentation + feelingā¦a lot. TBH - I feel like I immediately rejected the work-sleep hamster wheel @ the age of 22 so that I could do a lot of deep sorting + learning + digging + evolving in order to create something that helps us all get off of it.
And what evolved from that was my current baby: Daydreamers (šššŖ!!).
It feels like a little aligned gift from the world that as I step into my next decade, Iāve also made room to step into my *full full full* time role @ DD HQ. Iāve had so much awesome stuff going on over the past while - even while weāve been building DD in secret for a long while - between school + moving + getting married + writing the OA book + my own internal shit. It feels like the past few years have been a combo of 17 jobs at once š.
I say all of this for a few reasons:
(1) If you have enjoyed On Adulting + the messages I share here - you will literally be obsessed with Daydreamers. I feels like a bajillion times better in every single way: itās scientifically-validated, spiritually-driven, and made for ALL of us to experience this unwinding + learning + evolving in our bodies and minds. Itās like healing from society in the most beautiful and joyful way (honestly; I feel like the entire journey has been channeled from another universe and Iām being 100% serious, haha, but thatās between us).
(2) Itās always been my mission to show you the weird, confusing parts of adulthood. I want you to see that my journey to getting here - a place where I feel alive + connected + purposeful + READY to take charge of everything in my life has been so freakin weird. Like, you know what I mean?!?! Literally nothing has been straightforward or āeasyā or normal. But, by following my curiosity and being open to the feelings that come up alongside it, I feel like Iāve been able to āconnect the dots looking backwardsā (as one of my good mentors has said many a times!).
(3) I genuinely want you all to know how insanely grateful I am for you, and no matter what, how deeply connected I feel to this community. There are literally thousands of you who - even though I have not been great at communicating here recently - still read every email/post/etc and respond with such deep reflections. You have TRULY truly been part of shaping whatās next for me - and in turn - whatās (hopefully) next for the WORLD as Daydreamers begins to come to life. Iām not joking when I say I love you guys š.
Okay, phew. With all that said, Iāll leave you with an excerpt of my love note (I even bought a new notebook to begin this decade with!!!) that hopefully inspires a bit of dreaming on this Sunday eve.
Iāll also leave you with an entry to the secret portal to Daydreamers (weāre still not launched to the public and wonāt be for a little bit) if youāre feeling called to take part. You can sign up by entering the private website here using the password āuniverseā for the next 3 days. And an extra little love from me: if youād like to sign up, use EARLYACCESS5 for a lifetime gift :)
I love you all. Iām always here for you, and you can always reach me here. Happy Sunday :)
xxx
K
An excerpt from my love note: Entering my 4th Decade
Dear K,
ā¦
I am so proud of you. Truly. It is so easy to get caught in the future-comparison mode, or reflecting-self-improvement cycle. Itās easy to feel like you can be doing more, betterā¦always. But, wow. What an intentional, conscious life youāve built thatās truly the definition of living to the fullest. What more could you ask for? To be alive, is really, all weāre here to do.
And, this past decade is such a powerful example of being here, fully. Iām in awe.
This next decade, I hope + imagine that itās more of a clearing, a narrowing. A 5-course meal rather than a buffet (lol). A head-ruled decade thatās clear and intentional and essential, because youāve made space for that to happen. Your twenties were ruled with heart - and it was fucking awesome. But now, youāve built a clear foundation. You know what you love and where itās taking you, so you can say no. You can do less and choose more. You can truly be selfish - not in a way thatās hoarding only for yourself, but filled with clarity to spread outwards. Itās like giving yourself (and everyone around you) a breath of fresh air.
I donāt have any specific intentions moving ahead, except to flow. To own my shit. To live with focus, clarity, love and joy.
Hereās to more š
Love always,
K